Friday, May 5, 2017

Your Time is Limited, so Limit how you spend your Time

Man. When you get to a point in life where you have to make real life decisions that affect other people.. its boot. I don't love it.. Like right now, we are in the process of deciding what to do with the girls next year.. Trying to decide how you spend your time when you are busy.. is rough.. Trying to decide how your kids spend their time is also rough.. Do we sign up for T-ball? Soccer? Music class? How will they learn? Where will they go? What are their friends doing? Its exhausting. We are doing a Study in small group called "Breathing Room" and I do think its so important to understand that our time on Earth is limited.. so we need to be limiting how we spend our time.. spending time with people who are worth our time, and taking our kids to things that will allow them to flourish.. Figuring out those things is hard though.. lol

My girls have had a nanny since before they were born. We found early on (by talking to other twin parents) that hauling two newborn babies around was NOT ideal.. So we opted to have someone come to us, and we have been so blessed in that area. We had our First Nanny (Lapoppins) for the first 9 months, and we've had our current Nanny, Leslie, from 9 months to now. They were both amazing, and we are so grateful to have them. They have saved us from having to take two babies and all their garb around.. Leslie has helped us in numerous ways.. picking up after us.. picking up after the girls..Taking the girls to the library.. shuffling them to Mothers day out a few days a week.. taking care of the dogs.. letting service people into our house to fix things.. among taking great care of the girls..

AND.. AND.. We found BOTH of our amazing nannies on https://www.care.com/.. Yes, we took some flack from that from moms that said "You are just going to hire a STRANGER to take care of your KIDS! Blasphemy!".. Well let me tell you.. both of these STRANGERS have turned into amazing people for my girls.. Care does such a great job laying the groundwork for you.. background checks.. resumes.. etc.. And then you setup the interviews and decide who you want to pick. WE picked wisely both time (Or Rather Crosslee did) and we are beyond grateful for them, and for care.com So Don't let people tell you it can't happen.. WE also found some great babysitters on there.. Its been very helpful to us.

But now we are at a Crossroads.. Our Girls have a Late May Birthday.. which means we can choose to send them to Pre-K now, Pre-K at 4, then Kindergarten at 5, or Kindergarten at 6.. We've heard 'theories' on about which is best.. But at the end of  the day, the girls will decide. They LOVE going and doing.. in fact everyday when I get home Cross says "Mama, where we go today".. because she always wants to be going.. They both have LOVED going to Crossings MDO (Mothers day out).. They get so excited everyday when they know its a school day. They've made sweet little friends, and they love their Teachers.. So I know they are probably ready to go and learn daily.. But I also know they like lounging in the morning while eating pancakes and watching bubble guppies.. And there lies the conundrum.. Trying to figure out what is best for your kids. Man, I feel like we do this the second they are in our bellies, and for the rest of their lives. And you second guess..and you wonder.. and you wait..and you trust That God has provided you good direction and will provide you Wisdom and discernment when it comes to your kids.. and you Pray.. You pray a LOT.


In other news.. WE had a GREAT Easter.. so many Eggs.. so Many Bunnies.. SO. MUCH. CANDY.. lol.. its never ending.. but the girls had a great time. But.. in case you haven't noticed.. My babies.. do NOT look like babies anymore.. and they are about to be FOUR years old!!!




Friday, March 17, 2017

When Life gives you Lemons.. Be one..



 Well.. We are now on day 4 of Potty Training Londyn Lucille.. and I have to be honest.. It hasn't been terrible.. Last night we actually had a successful "Big One" in the potty.. She's actually doing REALLY good.. We are super Proud of her. Its sad that when you turn into a parent these are your 'rewards'.. Big Ones in the Potty.. lol.. Such is life.. I knew Times' they was a changin' two years ago when I was fired up about getting a Vacuum and a Mop for Christmas.. But.. we are on our way, and hopefully this will be the last time I talk about this.. because trust me, I'm sick of it too..

Isn't it funny the things you think will be so easy as a parent.. that turn into like the worst things ever? Now Granted, because I was never around children, I didn't have a LOT of expectations of myself on the parenting scale.. but I did think Potty training would be relatively easy.. I mean why wouldn't it be? Everyone does it.. But its by far been the worst thing.. I thought things like going out to eat would be terrible with twins.. but thankfully my girls have always been pretty great in public.. they mind.. they eat whatever you put in front of them.. and they are polite (usually).. but the Potty Training.. that is the one that kicked me right in the face.. I think it was the worst because just when you think you are at 100%.. Bam.. Pee in the floor.. Sorry for ruining this for you if you haven't gone through it yet.. but trust me when I tell you, Diapers will start looking better and better to you..



Anyway, Moving on.. I feel like I'm so behind on the girls party.. when in reality, I'm not.. but the difference is.. usually by this time I have a whole pile of things that I know I'm going to do.. Well since I'm doing "Twin O Ween".. I bought all the stuff last October and now I can't remember what I have!! Jordan's Aunt Martha also sent some amazing stuff.. and I don't remember what all that is either! So this weekend, Unkie B is coming over and we are going to get a handle on it! This year I designed the Invitations myself, and I'm working on the 'treats' to go with the 'tricks' for the party! I feel confident in saying it will be awesome..although I'm not sure I can ever out do the Michael Jackson party..
We took the girls to the OYE last weekend (Oklahoma Youth Expo).. They had spent the weekend with Gigi & Pa, so we all met at the Stockshow on Sunday. Cross likes watching the cattle show.. Londyn likes running up and down the ramps.. and I like the smell of Wood chips and Manure, so its a win/win for everyone.. I love the Big Cow they have positioned out front, and so do the girls..

This weekend we are getting our Cabinets painted. They are currently "Honey Oak" and Jordan has come up with a color scheme of Grey and White, so the tops will be White, and the Bottom cabinets will be grey. I'm excited to see how it turns out with my Bling Knobs on them! We found the woman who is doing it (Kari) on Facebook Marketplace, so I'll let you guys know how it turns out. She's going to paint the fireplace too, so I think it will really spruce things up!
In Other exciting news, the girls got chosen to be Brand Reps for a fantastic Online Boutique, Tdazzled Too Buy.. The adorable Red/Black outfits they have on in this picture are from there along with a lot of other things.. So If you need really cute clothes (boys and girls) for your kiddo, go ask to join the group, and list BR 47.. that is the girls number, and they will get the credit!  I'll be posting more cute stuff from them in a bit.. I just got some of it in yesterday with "Trolls" on them, so we'll do a photo shoot in a little bit.. 

Went to Hatch OKC last weekend for breakfast.. if you haven't gone there yet.. get there.. You can thank me later. Its fantastic. Also still watching "Nashville" and "This is Us" and bawling.. I read "Big Little Lies" and now I'm watching it on HBO.. that one thankfully does NOT make me cry.. lol.. Also still plugging away with my lipsense biz! Just found out my check this month is going to be enough to send the girls to gymnastics this summer! Score!! If you ever want to try Lipsense, or even join my team, just message me at kcshep1515@gmail.com and I'll give you all the details!! You guys have a great weekend! 










Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Hello.... its Me

Well this year already seems like a whirlwind doesn't it? I mean.. January.. then Bam! We are in March..

I've been planning the girls 4th birthday party.. Its going to be "Twin O'Ween".. Halloween in May. My girls LOVE Halloween.. and so do I.. so I thought why not! Parents spend all this money on Halloween costumes that their kids only get to wear ONCE at Halloween.. well now its twice for Twin O' Ween! Cross has been telling everyone her "Giant" and her Bloody Clown are going to be there.. Can't wait to see the parents faces with that.. lol.. As if the Michael Jackson party wasn't out there enough.. now I'm bringing a bloody clown! But.. My kids like unique things, and I'm going only encourage that..

We've been doing big things.. We all went to Western Oklahoma last weekend and had a big time.. It was literally packed with something to do every second that we were out there.. We Stayed with Gigi and  Pa.. Here's just some of the things the girls did while out there.. They fed Kris & Woody (Donkey and Mini Horse) we helped get the chicken Coop Ready.. we rode the 4 wheelers.. we visited Pops and Grammy.. and at their house we played in the playroom.. ate at the red barn.. played with Frank the Cat, and Lilly the bunny... They got into the Fort.. Drove their cars outside.. Played on the swing.. Watched Shrek.. Drove the Tractor.. Went to a chicken farmer and picked out Chickens.. then brought chicken home.. We had a real cattle drive..




I mean yeah.. its literally never ending. And that was just 2 days. Needless to say.. when Jordan and I get home we are exhausted. But...... not the girls! They are still going going going.. I swear if I put fitbits on them they would track like 300,000 steps.

In other news.. Jordan's new job is going well, and my job is going well. I've really enjoyed the Lipsense Side business. It is allowing me to put back some money for the girls school in the fall, and its allowing me to have extra spending money for more of the girls clothes!!! haha! I know.. I can't help myself! The other fun thign, for me, is its allowed me to be creative again. I do stupid videos in my facebook group, or dubsmashes, or Snap Chat Pics.. Its just fun to be able to interact and entertain again,.. So.. If you haven't ever visited my lipsense page, its called Talkin Smack with Shep, so come on over..

The girls are doing awesome. They love going to Crossings Twice a week and they really are just happy girls. We have successfully (so far, knock on wood) avoided all the sickness that has been going around non-stop. I've been so blessed in that department.. the girls and I seem to really stay healthy.. I mean I don't even know the name of our pediatrician, because we only have to see her once a year for well baby visits.

I do have a bunk foot right now.. I swear its because I'm starting Orange Theory on the 15th.. I think my body is frightened.. and it probably should be honestly. Its a workout that burns 1000 calories an hour and continues to burn after that. I know its going to be hard.. and I'm probably going to cry.. and then cuss.. and then cry again.. but I'm excited to just do something.. but I have to get my foot in shape, so I'm going to see the Foot Dr on Friday..

Cross still loves Michael Jackson and all things Sparkle. They both love Frozen, Trolls, and the Grinch. Londyn loves kitty cats.. Cross still loves Owls. She didn't want any chickens she told us.. she wanted Owls. She's been watching that Owl cam.. and she loves that! I love it too.. the Owls are such a neat bird. Even though you guys know.. birds and I are weird.. Lots of weird stuff with me and birds.. so there's that. They talk and play non stop.. they say hilarious things.. Cross says "Pofe Office" for Post office. Londyn says Cinderelly for Cinderella.. They both enjoy each other, and love playing together now.. they still fight, and sometimes they rare back and slap each other.. which is NOT ideal.. but its a relationship.. and all relationships have moments where we want to slap each other in the face.. its just more frowned upon as an adult.. lol.. But they are very very different little people and its so much fun to watch them.

I sold their Cribs to a friend I met on Facebook. She's having twins, and is 16 weeks along. I tried to prepare her for whats about to happen.. but I don't think you ever really can. There is just NOTHING like being a mom of twins. NOTHING. Its so freakin Scary sometimes! It has moments of being exhausting, and moments of exhilaration.. its never perfect, and its never #perfection or #magic (because you know I'm not ever going to be a cherry pie that can write that).. but sometimes it is #hilarious #twinning #sweetmoment #sisters. Its just trying to raise good little people. That are respectful, smart,, kind, and curious.. without taking away their unique greatness. #parenting

I'm still leading a small group at church.. still trying to do my hospice visits every two weeks.. Still doing my flower delivery at church, and going to Sunday School.. Still trying to take the girls and the dogs to the nursing homes so that we can all count our blessings. I don't have a lot of extra time, but I've learned that You make times for things you want to make time for. Its one of the most obnoxious things in the world when I hear "I'm just so busy.. I didn't have time".. You do. You make time for things that are important to you. You text people back that you care about talking to.. you go to dinner with those you want to hang out with.. You call and chat with those you want to see.. its not a time issue, its a decision issue. You decide whats important and then you make it a priority.. So with that said.. Figure out your priorities, because this year is flying by, so don't miss out on the Joy!

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

New Years REALsolutions

OH my gosh. . I get sick of hearing about New Years Resolutions.. Mainly because I never keep them.. So I quit making them.. However, I have decided on something worth doing.. my New Years Real-solutions.. These are things that I'm going to KEEP doing, 1) because I like them 2) because I know these things are good for me.. and 3) Because its something I can actually keep. Plus, I think its better to celebrate what we are able to do, instead of what we can't keep up with!

So here we go..
Plus, I want everyone to know. I love My God. We have an amazing relationship, and I speak with him daily.. I visit him in Church.. and I want you to know, that if God can love me, (doing all the ridiculous stuff that I do)  He can also love you! So don't let any of the things you do, or don't do... Keep you from having that relationship! Ok.. onto my Realsolutions..

1) Loving Glitter and Bling.. Yes, yes.. I know.. I've heard the saying "Glitter is like Herpes".. Just stop it. I love Glitter.. Glitter lipstick (my lipsense glitter gloss) glitter hair bows.. glitter pants for the girls.. Glitter paper.. I just love it. I also love bling, even better, bling that looks like glitter.. I like sparkly fun, shiny things.. Crosslee does too, and I let her like it. In fact.. I LOVE that she loves it! Her Michael Jackson party was laced with all things glitter.. and it was fantastic! Oh, and big, gaudy jewelry with fake gems? YUP. I love that too!

2) Big Hair.. Yes.. I know that "Jackin your hair to Jesus" may have went out in the 80's.. guess what? I DON'T CARE.. I like my hair set on lovely hot rollers, and then I like it to be big.. I don't like flat hair on me. I've had a million people try to get me to change my mind. Tell me "Straight hair is in" I don't care. I'm not doing it. My hair looks good like this..This also includes my super tall mom bun.. Yup, its still happening. Err'Day..  MJ likes it.. My mama likes it.. and I like it.. so its happening. Sorry, not sorry.

3) Going to bed at 8:30.. I could lie here and tell you that because I'm a twin mom I have to go to bed at 8:30 because I'm exhausted.. but if I'm being honest, I was in bed by 9 most of my life.. Yes, my life is a bit more tiring these days with two 3 year old toddlers.. but I was lame before I had children, and I'll continue to be lame now. However, I like being in bed by 9. I'm a morning person, so it makes it easier to rise and shine by 5:30am each morning!

4) Drinking Wine.. Yup. Not apologizing for this one either.. I like a good glass of wine (or two) in the evenings. I drink it at my house.. I am not a drunk.. I do not drive..I do not endanger people.. I'm responsible.. So I'm not going to feel guilty about this. I work hard and if I want a glass of wine in the evening.. or at a party.. or at dinner. I'm going to have one. I mean as a mom we've all heard the expression "Oh child..you will drive me to drinking".. yes, sometimes that is true..

5)  Creative Cussing. Sorry.. I may have offended you there.. but I like cussing. You should know.. I never cuss AT people.. or in front of people who don't like Cussings.. or where cussing is not appropriate. I like to call this cussing "Creative Cussing".. Like ways to describe things.. Or when you stub your toe or hit your head and you curse to make yourself feel better. I never use Curse words in a way to disparage someone, be mean, or anything like that.. I Just like to be creative with my wide variety of my vernacular sayings! Its a creative outlet for me!

6) Not dressing my girls like twins.. Ok.. I get it, I have twins.. thats awesome.. and magical.. Yes, yes it is.. but have you seen them? They are certainly NOT identical.. and they do not have the same taste in clothes, or the same opinions about pretty much anything known to man.. So while I get it, its cute to dress twins alike.. mine don't really go for that.. and I never really have either. Most people can't even tell they are sisters! Sure.. sometimes they want to wear the same things.. but that is like a 1 out of 50 time! (Like when they both want to wear Princess clothes because Princesses and Mermaids are where its at right now!)They came out of the womb two little separate people with completely different looks, and completely different personalities, so if they don't want to dress alike.. I'm completely ok with it!

So there you have it.. I plan on doing a videoblog of these shortly.. I got a GOPRO for Christmas, and I'm super excited to get it started.. but I haven't had time to get it all setup yet.. so that is fourth-coming.. But I just don't want people to feel like you have to be 'this' or 'that' to get it right.. we are all working hard to get it right in different ways all the time! We screw things up.. we get back on track.. we do things great! We celebrate that!! In this little round of life, we have to do what we can do to survive, and be great.. So whatever that is for you.. make it your own.. embrace it.. don't worry about going against the grain, or not fitting in with everyone else.. Don't worry about someone else's unrealistic expectations for you! Just do you, and do it well!!I've realized that when I'm the happiest.. its just BEING ME.. Weird..OL.. ME.. Because you know what? That is who God Created me to be.. ME.. Not anyone else, and he loves Me.. Just like I am. Will I always try to be better? For sure.. But even when I fail, I know I can get back up.. and move onto the next!

In other news.. Jordan got a new Job! So thankful for that! He started last Thursday and its going really great...We had an amazing Christmas.. the girls loved every single second of it.. Its making me a little sad that this year they will turn 4.. I have truly enjoyed them being 3. Its been a fun, entertaining year. They do and say something different everyday that makes us laugh. They are also pretty good kids!  I feel like the time is flying by in their little lives, and I recently had a friend Recommend a book to me that is really great.. Its called "Don't Miss it"..  And here are a few of my favorite little pages from the book so far..



People always say "The Days are Long, but the Years are short" and that is very true.. I only have 365 days of my girls as 3 year olds.. and after that they will be 4 year olds, and I'll never get to know them again as a 3 year old. So even though sometimes its hard, and I'm struggling, I've always tried to make the most of every day that I have with them..

Hope everyone had a good Christmas and Happy New Year! Here's to being Real, and Present in 2017!